After receiving news that one of my juvenile clients tested positive for marijuana yet again I got to thinking, what is the secret? What makes a child good or bad; diligent or lazy; responsible or careless? Is it hereditary or dependent on their environment, or ultimately a combination of both? As a slightly obsessive perfectionist, what in the world am I going to do without directions on this? It's just too important to wing it!
Question at hand: How do I navigate this parenting thing so as to produce the most responsible, loving, generous, and hard-working person possible?
I know, I know, it's a little early to worry about what kind of adult our currently-grape-sized fetus turns out to be. But, then again time flies. Before we know it the baby will be here; then crawling; then walking; then talking - and all the while learning how to behave from us.
I have tried to think back to the kids I knew well in school. The kids who navigated high school without a permanent seat in detention, and then the others. I have failed in identifying similarities in parenting with respect to the successful crew as opposed to the delinquents. Fact is, I know extremely well-adjusted, successful, responsible people who had lax/non-involved parents. Then, I can think of juvenile delinquents who grew up with strict, involved parents. I can think of examples of the visa versa as well. So, what gives?
This is just such an awesome responsibility. I want to do the best for my baby. I just have no clue how to do that. Any of you mommas/dads out there have some advice? How did you decide to parent and why?
PS - Our ultrasound has been moved up from Friday to tomorrow!!! So excited and can't wait to see the heartbeat - We may even be able to hear it!!!! xoxo
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